Very recently a stranger asked me to connect with him on LinkedIn. I didn’t see any connections in common. However I have often asked to connect with strangers based on my career and personal interests in order to build my network. I accepted.
I don’t know you, so I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt – that you are simply oblivious, rather than predatory. LinkedIn is a professional network, not a dating site. If you are looking for women to date, go to a dating site. For you to send a stranger a romantic invitation on a professional network is entirely inappropriate, offensive and creepy. You don’t know me. You don’t know if I’m charming or inviting. All you know is my appearance based on one photo. You might be surprised to find that women are not flattered when strangers make unexpected romantic propositions to them. In a world where we are not safe to walk alone after dark, where we always have to interpret whether a man’s attention is safe or predatory, actions like yours add to the feeling that the world is unsafe. If you are in fact an honorable man with honorable intentions, then you need your actions to line up with that. Do not make romantic invitations towards women in inappropriate places, ever. Do not approach them in ways that might make them feel unsafe, ever. And I might suggest that in the future you start with an invitation of friendship, not romance. I don’t need or want to hear back from you. If you take to heart what I have written, you will do things differently in the future. If you don’t, I definitely don’t want to hear about it. Either way, it’s none of my business.